tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post7226752109239573789..comments2023-10-08T05:52:15.634-07:00Comments on The Pink Pixie Forest: Bye Bye MamaTobi Britton*pinkpixieforest.blogspot.comhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00304025924413575900noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-61665361961821781422011-01-11T16:58:12.839-08:002011-01-11T16:58:12.839-08:00I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
I was just...I am so sorry to hear about your loss. <br />I was just keeping up with blogs and realize I haven't see you written. Now I know why.<br />Hang in there the best you can.<br />Nancynancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07161279898460324090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-83011433705079392632011-01-11T16:53:39.922-08:002011-01-11T16:53:39.922-08:00Oh Tobi, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I took s...Oh Tobi, I am so, so sorry for your loss. I took some time off from blogging during the Holidays and I'm just now reading your post. Please don't be so hard on yourself, take time to grieve and time will help you see through the pain. Hugs, NanNanEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07381370789175174347noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-86153515679493014342011-01-11T13:39:50.448-08:002011-01-11T13:39:50.448-08:00I'm crying as I write this. So sorry for what ...I'm crying as I write this. So sorry for what you have lost and the hurt that has come with it. I am also adopted but have searched for years with no luck. Even with the best adopted family I could dream of, I always felt something missing, a withdrawing from everyone, a wish to apologize to my birth mom for all the problems she must have faced because of me. All the best.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15876437116945579230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-14354784958270398712011-01-04T16:47:33.452-08:002011-01-04T16:47:33.452-08:00Tobi....I just read this post, and you are in my p...Tobi....I just read this post, and you are in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss, you have so many people who love you, xxoo ValarieValariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18011739331857915942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-55901563942061785102011-01-01T18:15:22.046-08:002011-01-01T18:15:22.046-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagin...I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how heartbreaking that is! Remember that you have this beautiful blog here to help you keep seeing the beauty in life and things around you, and that you have so many readers (including me!) who find so much inspiration from it. Again, so sorry for your loss, and I hope you will find more happiness in this new year :) Hugs from your new fan in Paris! <br /><br />xx,<br /><br />Paris in PinkParis in Pinkhttp://parisinpink.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-90880741322760402672010-12-31T18:00:45.843-08:002010-12-31T18:00:45.843-08:00Hi Tobi, My heart and prayers go out to you during...Hi Tobi, My heart and prayers go out to you during the lost of your mother here at Christmas time. When I lost my parents both were in the month of December. My mother the 18th and my father on Christmas Day. God gives us the strength to carry on regardless of the situation. Things will get better in time although it may not seem like that right now. I will keep you in my prayers. Happy New Year. A Missouri FriendShirleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06648865214694535566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-26877478675715817622010-12-31T10:12:44.819-08:002010-12-31T10:12:44.819-08:00Hi Tobi, I wish I could send you a big hug. Your p...Hi Tobi, I wish I could send you a big hug. Your post really touched my heart strings. Try not to be so hard on yourself. A mother's love is such a gift in itself and it sounds like you had that big time! In time you will be able to look back and smile at everything and remember the good times and maybe even chuckle a little. My mom has been gone for about 3 years now and I am doing just that. <br />Have a wonderful new year knowing that you touched the lives of so many with your post and keep up your mom's legacy of love and creative artistic expression and you will do fine. When you are feeling down just lean on God and He will embrace you with His love and healing. Hugs..julieLegacy of Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14382918863031891867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-36666632124638008252010-12-30T19:11:01.125-08:002010-12-30T19:11:01.125-08:00My dear Tobi, I feel like our soul's connected...My dear Tobi, I feel like our soul's connected a long time ago...now I feel for you because you are so sweet and loving, You have the right to be angry but not for long or it will haunt you.<br />I lost my mother in law this last September and had left alot of thing's unsaid and undone....regret's my friend alot of them. Also my oldest daughter lost her children to the state of Nevada...it has taken me and my husband three month's to get the children with us.<br />I know life can be so unfair...I hope you can find some healing in the new year. I will alway's be here for you.<br />I love you my favorite pixie.<br />Love, DebbieBeautifulDeeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02089978018823553799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-56133316433378506192010-12-29T19:06:54.637-08:002010-12-29T19:06:54.637-08:00Tobi, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother...Tobi, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother and the dual sadness from your siblings. My prayer for you is that the Holy Spirit will give you the peace and comfort you are searching for. Know the Lord has already forgiven us and it is his desire for us to forgive those who have wronged us. You will be in my prayers for you to receive strength to move past the pain. Just a side note: your blog has been so inspiring to me this Christmas, I have loved your creations and purchased through ebay several white pixies that I used to continue my white Christmas theme throughout my home. It sounds so superficial at a time like this but I just wanted you to know.<br /><br />In His Hands,<br />Sandy L.sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14879440754557064267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-78685697894517838862010-12-28T11:38:11.620-08:002010-12-28T11:38:11.620-08:00I know your pain but it sort of an opposite story....I know your pain but it sort of an opposite story. I had a daughter. A beautiful daughter. A model for Calvin Cline and Hillfiger. She left home at 18 and has abandoned me and disowned me as her mother. My exhusbands mistress is now called her mother. She has millions, I have very little. I raised her and sewed till my fingers bled to make money to buy her nice things. I have tried so hard to love her. I stopped buying her Birthday gifts and Christmas gifts because they aren't good enough. She has three sons and they call that woman grandma. It's just weird. That woman has always wanted my life. At 18 she tried to stop my wedding and never married but waited on my husband for 25 years. She got him then lost him to another woman. But she got him again and my daughter. She now has my daughter but not him. Holidays are sad here. With the death of my oldest son and my middle son it seems like a death when I think of her. I look at her face book and that is the only way I know anything about her. There is much to this story. Too much to comment on. Why I told you this is because we should love our parents no matter what because there is always a reason for things that happen. Depression. fear, self esteem. etc. I appreciate everything. I have a beautiful daughter here with me who loves me and has given me two beautiful grandkids. She takes care of me and she never hears from her sister. her children don't even know their cousins. It is just sad. I hope you understand that there was a reason for the things your mother did. I'm sure she loved you. In you she lives on. As you said you have so many similarities. I will pray for you. Blessings, Jan-Black Creek PrimitivesJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03620331078091812790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-67540684627223261782010-12-27T19:06:45.043-08:002010-12-27T19:06:45.043-08:00i'm so sorry to hear about your loss and the d...i'm so sorry to hear about your loss and the difficult time you are having. i think Christmas time is a specially difficult time to experience loss. but you are on the right track to pray for the grace to forgive, not only your siblings but also yourself. sending you healing thoughts and prayers, and wishing you a peace beyond understanding that God can and does give.peggy aplSEEDShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10768955822621326694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-19392941937848510082010-12-27T17:16:18.511-08:002010-12-27T17:16:18.511-08:00I just wanted you to know I dropped by and read yo...I just wanted you to know I dropped by and read your letter.My heart goes out to you.I'm so sorry you would have to go through such pain.I will be praying for you Tobi-most sparkly one.Nothing is too hard for HIM.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01877661749658933807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-28768874749605292202010-12-26T16:30:36.739-08:002010-12-26T16:30:36.739-08:00Dear Tobi,
I have enjoyed coming to your blog to b...Dear Tobi,<br />I have enjoyed coming to your blog to be with the pixies. I've always thought what an extraordinarily creative and beautiful person you must be to have created this blog. <br /><br />I am so sorry to hear of your loss of your birth mother. You have a long journey ahead of you as you work through the grief. Know that we are all walking with you with our arms hugging you as you go through each day. I am sorry your siblings were so hurtful. Forgive them. It will make you stronger. <br /><br />Love,<br />LottieLottiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16966797619528997912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-22732540673323289322010-12-24T01:20:48.400-08:002010-12-24T01:20:48.400-08:00Wishing you some peace, Tobi! XOXO TanyaWishing you some peace, Tobi! XOXO TanyaTanya https://www.blogger.com/profile/10949961269443532464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-89797117435561747802010-12-23T23:26:37.239-08:002010-12-23T23:26:37.239-08:00Dear Tobi,
I am sorry for the loss of your mother....Dear Tobi,<br />I am sorry for the loss of your mother. I pray GOD will wrap his loving arms around you and give you peace and strength in the days ahead.<br />Sending love and prayers to you sweetie. VickyGrannys Attichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10370020405036851987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-18059271014840342172010-12-23T18:20:04.401-08:002010-12-23T18:20:04.401-08:00Deareswt Tobi,
I am so sorry that you have lost yo...Deareswt Tobi,<br />I am so sorry that you have lost your mom. Don't beat yourself up! Of all the separations in the world, the one from your true mom is the hardest to overcome. Mine left me when I was six, and reappeared when I was 23. I completely let her slip away because I was afraid she would leave again anyway--which she did.<br />At least you kept yourself open to her and your siblings...even if you felt you could have reached out more. Doors like this swing both ways.<br />I'll be praying you find forgiveness soon. You are a talented, sparkling person who I feel I know through your beautiful art and willingness to share this beauty. God Bless you this Christmastime and always and I hope He sends a lot of comfort your way!Loose Sparrow Arts N Craftshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02666182176382115698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-46863004122323893492010-12-23T17:57:12.710-08:002010-12-23T17:57:12.710-08:00We're so sorry to read about your loss.
God b...We're so sorry to read about your loss. <br />God bless,<br />ShellieAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03499859355786999287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-3779413068028774292010-12-23T16:29:52.292-08:002010-12-23T16:29:52.292-08:00I am so, so sorry for your loss and for all of the...I am so, so sorry for your loss and for all of the feelings and emotions that you are left to work through. May God bless you and give you peace in the days and weeks ahead. <br /><br />Yes, you will be in my prayers.Jojohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09843762553010099404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-73705131996950874712010-12-23T14:54:22.561-08:002010-12-23T14:54:22.561-08:00Aw Tobi - I'm so sorry that you're feeling...Aw Tobi - I'm so sorry that you're feeling sad. We adopted our daughter so I understand some of your feelings. Whether it was for the best or not, there is always that piece of you missing if you don't know your birth mother. And accepting someone who you just envisioned in your head as a child and who isn't perfect isn't an easy thing to do. Dying is part of life and eventually we just have to accept that and try to deal with our losses as best we can. Please don't be mad at your siblings - it will only add to your pain. They have their own grief to deal with and probably in time also their guilt about not letting you know. You know you can talk to your mother anytime you want - just in your heart and head. I have conversations with my loved ones who have passed all the time - I truly believe they can hear. I'll keep you in my prayers and I hope God will ease your heart during the coming weeks. Big hugs!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14698801749067092572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-77853050434248811452010-12-23T13:49:49.542-08:002010-12-23T13:49:49.542-08:00I just today discovered your blog-my prayer for yo...I just today discovered your blog-my prayer for you is that angels gather round you and give you comfort-so many of us spend Christmas without our mothers-here is the hand of LOVE from a stranger to you!kaynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-43400133742821534022010-12-23T12:50:39.598-08:002010-12-23T12:50:39.598-08:00I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll be sendin...I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll be sending my love to you tonight. Big Hugs xoxoxNicholahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04895793578601174625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-55869199605448112362010-12-23T12:47:35.952-08:002010-12-23T12:47:35.952-08:00I am so, so sorry Tobi. Please try not to be too ...I am so, so sorry Tobi. Please try not to be too hard on yourself. It's so easy to look back and blame yourself, rather than accepting your feelings. <br /><br />You were scared and fearful, not selfish. Fear of abandonment is a huge, heart crushing concern. Had your mom been more stable herself, things may have been much different. <br /><br />Here are some things I've learned about forgiveness that may help you. I liked them so much I wrote them down!<br /><br />Forgiveness is the willingness to move past the offense and refuse to entertain further thoughts about it. It's NOT the same as telling the other person (or people in your case) what they did was ok. It was NOT ok; it was real; it was negative, and whatever their motives, it was damaging and wrong.<br /><br />Forgiving is not giving your retroactive approval or admitting that maybe you're being too sensitive or hard on them. <br /><br />Forgiving is releasing negative emotion, not condoning bad behavior. <br /><br />But, how can we let them off the hook?! How can we forgive them when they might not even be willing to admit they ever did anything that requires forgiveness? We want paybacks! We want divine retribution. We want justice!<br /><br />But justice and forgiveness have nothing to do with one another. We forgive to set our own spirits free, not condone the misguided actions of someone else.<br /><br />We forgive to free ourselves.<br /><br />Tobi, Carry your Mom in your HEART, not on your shoulders. She wouldn't want that. <br /><br />God Bless You,<br />JillBucksCountyFolkArthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11968262917835210953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-79285342024873876182010-12-23T11:35:01.138-08:002010-12-23T11:35:01.138-08:00Dear Tobi, I lost my father the week before Thanks...Dear Tobi, I lost my father the week before Thanksgiving and I,too, had somewhat of a falling out with my sisters about it so I know a little of what you are going through. I truly am sorry for your loss. It will get better, I promise. Best wishes for a blessed holiday, hugs, KathleenOur Hopeful Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09545698852959318449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-64827158968102140022010-12-23T11:22:41.117-08:002010-12-23T11:22:41.117-08:00Tobi,
My heart is breaking for you. You will be i...Tobi,<br /> My heart is breaking for you. You will be in my thoughts and in my prayers.<br />One thing I want you to think about is, what if you never met her, what if all those questions you had went unanswered? You were able to get your answers and to meet her. You were blessed in that way. You met your brother and sister. <br />Don't look at the past but go forward and even though it is hard, forgive, extend a hand out toward your brother and sister. If they reject you, then in your heart, you will know that you made the offer and you will feel better and have no regrets.<br /><br />Hugs to you,<br />DebbieDebbie-Dabble Blog and A Debbie-Dabble Christmashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09393980831584145593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3889473714895019081.post-11720387151907397822010-12-23T10:52:13.912-08:002010-12-23T10:52:13.912-08:00Hello, I am so sorry for your loss, my heart is br...Hello, I am so sorry for your loss, my heart is breaking for you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers through this difficult time and through the Holiday's. Hugs, TerriTerri Gordonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15450913398757327902noreply@blogger.com